Young adult clients typically are very fearful of including their family into their recovery. Many times it is perceived fear and shame that holds them back. In this “Ask Emily,” Dr. Jillian Lampert addresses this concern. Watch the video to hear her suggestions.
Including loved ones, specifically family – no matter who “family” is to you – has proven benefits*. Some of these benefits include:
- Increases generalization of treatment from the clinic to home
- Enables clients to ask for support and help
- Increase connection, assertive communication, setting boundaries
- Helps the client replace comfort/support from the eating disorder to a family relationship
- Helps break through shame and isolation
- Increases bonds and attachment
Letting loved ones know about your struggles with an eating disorder can be scary. And it’s more common than not that these are people who are willing participants and can help support you through this journey. So, talk to the people in your life that you trust and ask for support when you need it. Your loved ones and treatment team are there to help.
*Although it is uncommon for us to not encourage inclusion of family and/or friends, we do understand that there are some circumstances that would prohibit people from being of support due to their own personal situations.
Blog Archives: September 2014
by Katie Teresi
We wish recovery from an eating disorder was as simple as snapping our fingers, but the reality is that recovery is a journey. A challenging journey? For sure. An impossible one? Definitely not. Always remember that sustainable recovery is attainable. And, while no two paths to recovery are alike, there are a few things everyone should keep in mind while making the journey to an eating disorder-free life.
By Sarah Hrudka, Outreach Specialist at The Emily Program
As The Emily Program continues to expand treatment options across the country, it’s more important than ever to truly be part of and contribute to the richness of each community we join. To do this, The Emily Program has designated outreach staff who are able to take on this important community role.
By Katie Teresi
It may surprise people to know that body image is much more than what you see in the mirror. In fact, it spans how you picture yourself in your mind, what you believe about your own appearance, and what you think about your weight, height, and shape. It even covers how you feel in your own body.
By Cami Applequist, a former TEP client and woman in recovery
A while back I was getting ready to leave work as a nanny for two girls, ages 5 and 3, who knew I was going to officiate my cousin’s wedding that Saturday.
The Emily Program takes pride in getting out and being a part of the communities where we work and live. Our outreach staff and providers do presentations for community groups, professional associations, medical professionals, college students, the list goes on and on.
By Mark Warren, chief medical officer of The Emily Program
In our conversations about eating disorders we sometimes forget to state the obvious, which is that it’s horrible to have an eating disorder. It is always horrible for the person that has it and the pain of the disorder often extends far past the individual to their family, friends and community. Eating disorders affect everything about us. They affect the way we think, the way we feel, our self image, our experience in our bodies, our minds, and who we are in the world. They destroy our health, our hearts, our brains, and ultimately can take our lives. Eating disorders affect our relationships, school, work, and ability to have the lives we want to have. They are illnesses in the truest sense of the word. They disable us and take our health and well being. Part of the awfulness of having these disorders is that they are not well understood or appreciated for how terrible they are and the pain they cause. Layered into all of this is that the treatment for the disorder often causes more pain. Trying to refeed, stop behaviors, change self image, and work on body image can take us to places that are both painful and frightening. Yet there is no other choice. So what do we do? We find strength from each other, find ways to feed ourselves and make our bodies healthy, and find a community that is healing. We need to believe in and seek out the evidence based care that can help us and trustworthy providers, family, and friends who will be there with us. In Marsha Linehan’s writings she talks about the pain of living in hell and how the only way out of hell is to get on our hands and knees and crawl through the fire until we reach the sunshine. So we acknowledge the pain and acknowledge how awful these disorders can be, but also know that if we keep moving forward we can find the light that will give us our lives back and let us escape the disorder.
Contributions by Sarah Emerman, Therapist at The Emily Program - Cleveland (formerly Cleveland Center for Eating Disorders)
How do I tolerate how terrible it is to have an eating disorder? originated on Clevelend Center for Eating Disorders blog Clevelend Center for Eating Disorders blog in July 2012.
By Wendy Blackshaw, marketing director at The Emily Program and a woman in recovery
A couple months ago I read an email that made me weepy. It was from a Minneapolis yoga instructor who saw one of our Emily Program billboards that says “Ever Beaten Yourself Up with a Donut”? She was writing to thank us because it captured where she had once been – struggling with an eating disorder – but it also captured where she is now – healthy, whole and in a recovery where donuts are eaten. I love these stories. Because it is my story.