Butterfly Love 3
This is one person's experience; everyone will have unique experiences on their own path to recovery and beyond. Some stories may mention eating disorder thoughts, behaviors or symptom use. Please use your own discretion. And speak with your therapist when needed.
By Alexandra Miles, a former The Emily Program client in recovery
Self-acceptance and Self-nurturance
As I align myself more clearly than ever before with my heart-space, and live with humility, grace, and compassion, I am reminded of my own eternal freedom, my true heart-space, and I begin to believe that each living creature is only a heartbeat away from flying FREE. “We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.” – Author Unknown
Red roses, hearts, and love fill the month of February, the month of Valentine’s Day. As the day of red roses approaches I am reminded of the beauty of self-love, the seed of Valentine’s Day. A heartfelt relationship begins with deep self-love, self-nourishment, self-trust, and self-acceptance. Unconditional love between two beings begins with unconditional love within one’s heart. As we cultivate love for ourself, then we can love another.
Valentine’s Day symbols a day of romantic love. Often there is external pressures to have a perfect relationship, be in a relationship, or have an exquisite date on Valentine’s Day. If we shift the focus from the external to the internal, we can utilize Valentine’s Day to celebrate the beauty of self -love.
We can utilize Valentine’s Day to be grateful for what we have, instead of feel sad for what we do not have. On Valentine’s Day we can treat ourself, adore ourself, and nourish ourself in all forms. The day of red roses, hearts, and love is a day to fill our own hearts with the roses of life and spiritual nourishment. Valentine’s Day can be a day to deepen our connection to our own soul and heighten our spiritual awareness. We can spend the morning of Valentine’s Day meditating on spiritual love.
If we have a partner in our life we can share the love in our hearts with another being. We can extend our own generosity to another. If we are alone, we can bask in the light within our own heart and soul. Whether single or in a relationship Valentine’s Day can be viewed as a day of deep, soul love. On Valentine’s Day we can remember the deep love our soul has for us. I look forward to the day of soul love and red roses and invite you to as well.
Tips and Advice:
- Rejoice in nature
- Spend time walking through the woods or by a lake, and allow nature to speak to you
- Spend time listening to your heart and soul
- Spend time with friends
- Buy yourself flowers
- Keep a gratitude journal
- Surround yourself with loving music
- Make friends with all of you, even the parts you may not like
- Open your heart every morning through giving yourself a morning hug
Alexandra is a survivor of anorexia, asthma, severe anxiety, and chronic pneumonia. Through her own personal healing journey she dedicated her life to living in alignment with her heart. Today she smiles often, rides her horse, paints, writes, teaches Yoga, and has her own healing practice. She is in the process of publishing her book The Beauty of Wings, a personal healing memoir.